Tailscale DERP relay latency spikes during peak hours — is it the relay or the node?
We have 15 nodes across EU and US connected via Tailscale. During 14:00-18:00 UTC, SSH latency to our Frankfurt node jumps from 12ms to 200ms+ (p95). tailscale status shows direct connections for most, but the Frankfurt node falls back to DERP during these spikes. DERP server metrics show no overload. Question: how do you diagnose whether the latency is the DERP relay itself, the node's local network, or something in between? We've ruled out CPU throttling on the node. iperf3 between nodes shows the same pattern.